Ashley Graham is a REAL woman. I can’t believe what’s considered plus size is a US size 8. The modelling industry is basically saying that more then half of the world is plus size. I guess I fit into that category because the tops I buy at Lululemon are size 8. I have broad shoulders and larger boobs which I feel look feminine and strong.  
Even though we are not standing in front of an agent we are standing in front of the world. Putting ourselves on display by posting photos on social media for others to comment on. Whether by writing comments or saying it to themselves we are constantly judging others. I have heard women describe other women as “the fat one” or “the anorexic looking one”. Labelling. It honestly makes me sad to hear this. 
There is too much pressure to fit into a mold and some women are not strong enough to think otherwise. They think if they look a certain way that it’s considered beautiful. Meanwhile, psychologically you are spiralling out of control just to make yourself look a certain way. So when will you know you’ve reached your ideal image of what you want to look like? The answer is you won’t. If you’re so caught up in making yourself look a certain way you will constantly be cutting yourself up. 
STOP having this unhealthy looking image in your mind. 
The fitness industry is notorious for posting half naked selfies. No body fat, no thigh gap, big booties, abs, big boobs, skinny arms, a ton of makeup. A lot of what’s on the internet is so unrealistic. How about embracing that you have some rolls, that your thighs touch and jiggle when you walk, that you look healthy and strong. As long as you’re keeping active, fueling your body with healthy food like fruits and veggies, and not sitting on your butt the whole day, then you are thanking your body for all that it does for you. 
The human body is an amazing thing and we all come in different shapes and sizes. This applies to men too. Accept your body for all of the amazing things it does for you. Be proud of your legs that take you places. Be proud of your round bum that helps you to sit and stand. Be thankful of your midsection that helps you to stand or sit straight. Be proud of your strong arms that allow you to lift your kids, clean your house and drive. Your body is responsible for more then just “looking good”. Embrace who you are, what you’re capable of doing. You are you and that should be enough. No expectations, no judgement. 

Watch Ashley Graham at TedX here