I love haters.  That’s right, embrace those who hate.  You may think that’s a crazy statement but think about this.  When someone says something negative about you or your business does it not give you the fuel to strive to be better?  To prove you are worthy of your place in society and to show everyone that you’re above getting caught up in the moment.  It bothers that person more that they didn’t get a reaction out of you.  What it really comes down to is jealousy.  Deep down inside of them they are jealous of whatever it is about you that they are lacking; your confidence (which some often mistake for an ego), your ability to make friends easily, etc.  Whatever it is it’s usually a result of your strength being their weakness so they feel they have to retaliate in a way to make themselves feel better.

The reasons haters are good for you, particularly when it comes to business, is that they are talking about you.  It’s publicity.  Whether good or bad things are being said by people it’s all publicity and the funny thing is is that they don’t even realize they are promoting you.  Whether it’s leaving comments on a YouTube video, sharing your blog post with others so they can read what you said, those are all hits that will drive up your visibility and make you more searchable, show up on newsfeeds more, etc.  Engagement is what you want for exposure and they are doing exactly that.

Another way to look at it is that you must be pretty important for them to be wasting their breath and thumbs on you.  You may be lucky enough to have a whole social media thread about you or even better, a hate club.  People can be mean and nasty but if you are able to brush it off and rise above, then you will succeed even more in life and leave them all in the dust to live out their negative petty lives.

I love this t-shirt from WWE Superstar John Cena.  It speaks volumes.

John Cena-Rise Above Hate

and this quote from Dr. Seuss

Dr. Seuss

I’m not saying to be a jerk on purpose just to push people’s buttons but allow yourself to be true to who you are.  Stand up for what you know is right and what you believe in.  Be unique and if it’s in your comfort zone, push boundaries.  That’s what makes you grow as an individual.  In business stating your qualifications and what you bring to the table is not a negative thing.  People may think you’re bragging but what you’re really doing is branding and promoting yourself.  Making yourself stand out and showing your audience why they should invest in your product over someone else’s.  It’s called competition and it’s healthy.  It’s not a negative thing at all but for some reason people see it as such.  The people who see it like this are not well versed in business and don’t understand the fundamentals it takes to grow a business.  Therefore, ignore them.  They won’t make your business better so no need to try and please them.  People are always going to try and find fault with things you do but as long as you stay true to who you are, you will attract the audience you are trying to target.  Be proud of what you stand for and don’t let nay sayers get you down.

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